Posted in Our little man, Parenting style

Bittersweet thought

Little A  is getting so much bigger and is just growing up right before my eyes. I swear he grows an inch everyday! He’s such a big boy now and is so smart that it baffles me. It’s almost a bittersweet thought thinking that he’s already going to be three years old in just a few months. He has been doing this thing lately where he “wants to be the baby”. He’ll climb up on my lap and cradle himself in my arms and let me rock him. It’s truly the sweetest thing. He may be getting to be a big NAUGHTY boy, but he will always be my baby. Always.

Posted in Learning through play, Our little man

Developing reading skills through play

One of my favorite parts of being a mother–aside from spending time with little A–is finding ideal moments for sneaking in some learning.

Whether he’s playing with numbers, letters or language, there is always fulfilment and joy in my heart every time we are doing our activities. At his early age little A can read already. I must say that his passion and eagerness to learn makes it easy for us to teach/guide him.

Here are two quickie tricks for developing reading through play.

Jump.Hop.Run to the words..
Sight words are common and frequent words that occur in everyday reading and writing.
matching words
Teaching kids to recognize common words by sight is one way to improve reading fluency. Because these words are used so often, it is important that readers are able to recognize them quickly without having to rely on sounding them out.

Reading can be so sneaky but learning through play can be beneficial . . . no one even knows he’s learning and having a good ol’ time.

Posted in Saving tips

50 uses of vinegar

From cooking and cleaning with vinegar, to gardening and home remedies, vinegar is one of the most versatile—and economical—products you can have on hand.  Here’s the list of great tips and discover a new way to put that bottle of vinegar to work!

Happy Cleaning!

  • Make all purpose cleaners by pouring with equal parts into a spray bottle
  • Clean dirt off your computer and mouse with a little vinegar and a q tip
  • Clean your drains with vinegar and baking soda
  • Wipe away mildew
  • Clean and polish chrome and stainless steel
  • Use as a fruit wash-rinses away germs
  • Erase ballpoint-pen marks
  • Erase crayon marks from clothes
  • Remove stickers and price tags
  • Disinfect cutting boards
  • Restore wood paneling
  • Remove carpet stains
  • Keep car windows frost free
  • Remove candle wax
  • Conceal scratches in wood furniture
  • Get rid of water lines on furniture
  • Freshen your kitchen
  • Trap fruit flies by placing some in a small bowl
  • Wash out your washing machine and dishwasher with 1/2 cup
  • Wash away mildew from your shower curtain
  • Put the sparkle back in your china
  • Remove mineral deposits from shower heads
  • Whiten your grout
  • Clean a coffee maker
  • Remove stains from pots and pans
  • Help bruises heal faster by applying a little vinegar
  • Sooth a soar throat by gargling 1 Tb of apple cider vinegar with 1 tsp of salt
  • Soften your cuticles
  • Clean your toothbrushes
  • Erase scorch marks
  • Unset old stains
  • Soak out blood stains
  • Keep cut fresh flowers fresh
  • Revive your paintbrushes
  • Kill weeds in the yard
  • Peel off wallpaper
  • Clean cloths and sponges
  • Keep unwelcome guest out of the garden
  • Clean counter tops
  • Clean and freshen the smell of the refrigerator
  • Clean and disinfect baby toys
  • Get rid of stubborn bathtub residue
  • Spray vinegar along doorways to keep ants away
  • Treat stained Tupperware stains with vinegar
  • Shine porcelain sinks
  • Pamper your skin by blotting it on with a cotton ball
  • Treat a bee sting by pouring some undistilled vinegar on it
  • Relieve sunburn by lightly rubbing it with vinegar
  • Boil better eggs by adding 2 TB vinegar to the water – keeps them from cracking
  • Make fluffier pancakes by adding 2 TB of vinegar
Posted in Family matters

You are the PEANUT to my butter…

 

You are the PEANUT to my butter 

TWINKLE in my eye

SHAKE to my bake

BLUE in my sky

SPRINKLES in my sundae

FLIP to my flop

BUMBLE to my bee

JEWEL on my crown

MILK to my shake

SPRING in my step

BEAT of my heart

LOVE OF MY LIFE 

 

We may not always agree sometimes but at the end of the debate, thank you for always choosing me over the argument.For that I am truly grateful..

Posted in "ME" time

The mane attraction

Then - with my long hair

When it comes to crowning glory I’ve always been reasonable happy with my hair but it tends to grow  to a certain length and then starts to look straggly and thinner due to hair fall. To be honest I am not adventurous when it comes to hair style. I’ve always have a long hair and a shorter cut is NOT an option for me. But one thing for sure “sometimes getting out on my comfort zone” could add a major dose of glamour to my look.haha!!

I therefore felt extremely confident after getting good response with my new locks. What do you think?? wink!!

New ME!
Posted in Our little man, Parenting style

Am I praising little A too much?

Recently I’d been reading articles about giving praises to kids.  Like any other parents we all love to praise our child. It feels good. It makes us feel as though we’re doing something right. Then I asked myself- Am I praising little A too much? The short answer is ‘yes’ and I’m guilty!

Ok I must admit.I always acknowledge his works whether its drawing,simple task,crafts or doing the right thing Im always giving him praise and positive remarks.

Little did I know is that praise can actually be bad for kids.

Below is the article that explain why encouragement, support, and gratitude are far more effective.

Why shouldn’t I praise my kids?

In the past 20-30 years, a growing number of research projects have found that praise can actually be bad for kids.
Here are just a couple of reasons why:
  1. Praise is generally perceived as controlling. When we praise our children, they perceive it as our attempt to manipulate their behaviour – which it very often is. When kids feel controlled, the first thing they’ll often try to do is push against us. Have you ever noticed that if you praise your children for something they’ll stop doing it? This is why.
  2. Research has ABUNDANTLY shown that praising our children can reduce their interest in doing whatever it is we praise them for. Whether it’s cleaning something, eating something, sharing, helping, or otherwise, praising kids makes them stop and think, “Gee, if mum’s making such a big deal about it, maybe I’m not supposed to like doing it.”
  3. Research has also demonstrated, clearly, that praising children reduces the quality of whatever is being praised. Some specific research found that praising children for painting something nice led to less creativity next time they painted. Similarly, other research has found lack of motivation and effort in reading, problem solving, drawing, and helping after praise is offered. It seems that if praise isn’t offered next time a child does that activity, they stop doing it.
  4. Praise, ultimately, is a judgement. It’s an evaluation, and our children don’t like us to be their judges, because just as we can judge something as good (e.g., “Good girl”, “Good job”, “Good work”), we can also be critical.
  5. Perhaps the greatest issue with praise is that it makes a child feel as though we regard her conditionally. That is, she has to keep doing things that we evaluate positively to be considered ‘worthy’ to us, her parents. The idea that she has to earn praise makes it problematic. This is because the very idea of positive reinforcement promotes conditional love. And our children need unconditional love and acceptance from us.
So, what do we do instead?
We clearly need to give our children positive interactions. I’m not at all suggesting that to we should cut out any kindness and positivity. This is not about growling and grilling our kids day in and day out.
In fact, recent research shows that, while praise is not good for our children, they NEED us to be positive all the time! Some researchers suggest that we should have 20 positive interactions, gestures, touches, and words for every one negative! That’s a 20:1 positivity to negativity ratio for a flourishing relationship! If we aren’t going to praise, what can we do?

1. Express gratitude. When you see that your child has done something you value, say ‘thanks’.

Hey thanks for cleaning up your room. I appreciate it.
I’m really grateful you ate all your dinner tonight. It will help you grow even bigger and stronger.
When you share your toys with your friends, it makes me feel grateful… and it makes your friends grateful to.
2. Be supportive.
When our children do something we think is super, describe what you see. Ask them questions about their perception. Describe the effort you see them make.
Wow. When you played that song on the piano, your fingers seemed right, the louds and softs were in the right places. It sounded like you’re really getting it. What did you think?
When your sister shouted at you, I heard you speak softly and kindly back. How do you think that made things better? How did you feel to make that decision? How do you think your sister felt when you were kind to her?
3. Be encouraging. 
Teach your children that effort brings rewards. When children are doing something difficult, rather than praising for it, speak with them about engaging in the process, about doing one bit at a time, and about useful strategies they can employ. Then, at the end of the process, be supportive again by describing the effort you’ve observed them use, and the outcome they’ve achieved.
I know it’s hard.
In our family, we do hard things, and right now you’re doing it too.
How can I help? I’m watching you work at this and can see you making progress.
If you keep it up, I know you’ll be able to do this.
Wow, you worked hard at it. You did it in little bits. Now it’s finished. You did something hard and now it’s done! How does it feel to know you can do it?

Research shows it can reduce people’s motivation, negatively affect their behaviour, and more.It’s often a broad character assessment (you’re a good boy) that is given away easily, can be confusing, and is easily retracted ten seconds later if the child does something we disapprove of. It leads to lower motivation later if it isn’t kept regular, and can lead children to question themselves if they’re not getting it when they expect it.

The alternatives are much more effective in helping children feel encouraged, supported, and appreciated. And they also help children form their own judgements of how they’re actually doing, which is far more powerful than having judgements passed down from us.